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Monday, June 23rd, 2008

This begins to be more of a monthly journal than a blog; my own form dependent on inspiration and time. Life has been full but not overburdened and summer in my garden is a delight.  The plants have taken a liking to their home on the mountain and fairies and unseen creatures, having discovered their joy, cavort with them in the evenings.  When I go out in the morning, the particular spot where they’ve spent time still holds the memory of their presence; they leave behind a different quality of light – a gleam.  Nothing could so assure me that my efforts are accepted by nature as in this evidence of obvious approval.

For the time being I’ve set aside the marketing of “Time and Transformation” and returned to complete the long novel of the Minoans. The Minoan story is told to a young girl growing up on Crete in the home of an archaeologist, by her Cretan nanny. It will be two books for it’s far too long for one which gives me the liberty to fill out the girl, Gloria’s side of the story as she struggles to overcome the debilitating effects of a dark mother. The Minoan story is already complete.  As much as I enjoyed living among the ancient Maya and bringing Balamka’s adventure to life, the Minoans are the people of my heart and the characters who lived in their time are my very soul.  The first sentence I ever wrote was devoted to them, many many years ago when I went looking for a culture in which to place a story of healing caves; ancient places of psychological birth. On Crete I found the birth place of Zeus in the Dictaen Caves and so began a sojourn that became three different versions of their story. I would put it aside, go back and start again, and again. I know that I must finish but I will never leave them, nor they me for nothing that ever was can not be, and everything loved is forever held in the soul.

 

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

I’ve put the latest Yucatan article up on the site in the articles section titled,”Travels in the Yucatan.”  

Preparing for the next workshop June 1st on feminine archetypes, we’ll be focusing on the dark side of the Great Goddess. Not a favorite subject but an important one, and one that personal experience has taught me, had best be attended to or She will demand attention and that is NEVER a good thing, as Sleeping Beauty and other heroines and heroes have learned.  She goes by many names through time and space, essentially representing loss of consciousness, whether that means physical death or ego death.  If truth be told, no matter what story we may tell ourselves about either of those options, it is truly terrifying or so She has the power to frighten us. There is NOTHING maternal about her.  She is not ambivalent but entirely horrible. The Indian goddess Kali best represents Her in modern time when, in western culture she’s been sent back to the unconscious. As I mentioned earlier, that is not a good idea. One can wonder if our current world crises may have something to do with our denial of death.

 Wednesday. May 14th, 2008

The series of non-fiction articles I’ve been writing for the magazine Ancient American has been great fun; an opportunity to speak directly about the classic Maya. The latest edition Vol 12 Number 78, just came out and is available on the newsstands at Borders, Barnes and Noble, etc. In that issue the second article in the series of six further explores the Mayan’s spiritual beliefs and the way they were woven into daily life.  There are several color photographs of the region of Sayil and Kabah; ruin sites on the western end of the Yucatan peninsula.  The next article will be about Uxmal, also in the western region, but much larger and more well known than Kabah and Sayil. All are wonderful and well worth a visit. I hope to get the article up on this site soon but in the meantime please pick up a copy of the magazine if you’re interested.

Sunday May 11th 2008

I must revise my previous statement about best moments for I now have a new favorite “best” moment. Or I should say best hours. Last night’s book launch at Book Passages was more than I could have hoped for.  The eager faces of many friends and family members was like looking into a sea of love and with that support, telling the story of writing Time & Transformation and reading excerpts from it, was a pure delight.

Thank you, thank you all so very much.  The years of sitting alone struggling to bring the story into a coherent form are now totally worth it. There are times that I love being alone but I must admit to having felt a bit deprived of human contact these last years. I’m encouraged and inspired to pursue the promotion of the book and to have many more best moments and hours sharing the work with the world.

For those of you who get nervous when someone gets too bubbly, never fear, I was trained by a mother who was always on the lookout for too much happiness and would squish it like a bug when she saw it appear. I know better than to be too happy. But I am going to indulge in it for a little while before coming back to the ground and the day-to-dayness of life. Pure happiness is so rare.

The next reading for the book is Saturday, May 17TH at the Orinda Bookstore at 1PM. For directions go to Orindabooks.com.

Friday, May 9th, 2008

The marketing and promotion for the publication of Time & Transformation has eaten up my time for the last two months, and happily, I’m now able to come back to other things; to smelling the roses and writing for myself and friends. The book launch party is tomorrow night and beyond that, who knows where it will go, but once launched the book will have to travel of its own volition. The writing and caring for it have been a great joy, and at one level I’m sorry to leave the world of the Maya and my dear heroine Balamka, but there are other things to do; other lands to explore and characters to discover.

At home Joie the dog and Sophie the cat are doing as well as a brother and sister of another species might. They have moments of play and others where they’re not so sure of one another, but how different is that than any relationship? The gardens around the property are becoming truly magical thanks to the joint efforts of myself and Heather and Mike.

My favorite moment this spring was late in the day after hard work planting, when I sat in my newly developed grotto garden hemming a dress while Heather and Mike continued down below putting in a new yellow rose bush. The sound of their conversation and laughter mixed with the sweetness of bird’s songs in the otherwise silent world of the mountain.  The sun was low in the sky with no wind and now and again Sophie would dart by with her huge bushy tail held high. Joie would not be far behind.  Such a moment seems to imprint on the soul in such a way that it is eternal. I don’t know why one moment is so and the other millions of moments are not, but it seems true. Since then, I often remember the experience and am grateful for it as well as awed by how simple the truly important things in life actually are. I suppose we must do those other things but frankly if I could choose whether to write a book and go to stores and do readings, or go to a party, or travel to a distant land, or sit once again hemming my dress with family and garden around me, I know what I would choose.

 

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Trust, essential to so many other things; with it we feel safe and when safe we feel confidant and free to move and play, create and connect with the world around us. It is as if, trust creates the space within which all good things come into existence. Like a playground with a fence around it that lets the children know they are safe to play within it with no interference from outside forces. We are after all, baby gods and the world is our playground, our place to learn and interact. 

Without trust, we contract and are afraid, shrinking the space into a denser and denser concentration of energy like a neutron star that will eventually blow itself up. At the very least it will not have room for play and pleasure, creativity and open communication with the world at large.

Granted then, trust is a good thing, but if it’s so important to our well-being, why is it so rare? Why are most of us, most of the time, living without it? Part of the human experience is to continually have the rug pulled out from under us; to have our hopes disappointed, or unpleasant things happen that we’re not expecting; love lost, job lost, rejection in a myriad of forms.  When this happens most people contract, as if it is a blow. And what this perceived blow hits is our trust! We then say, I can’t trust life; life is not safe; only fools trust, I’ll get hurt if I trust.   Fundamentally because life is unpredictable, which it most definitely is, it is not safe to trust.

There is a certain logic to this, but it is a flawed argument for if we know that life is unpredictable, we “trust” that it is, why argue with it whenever it proves to be true? Why demand that life give us what we want when we want it in order to trust? Why not trust that life is as it is and that what comes will come and that we can trust that? So we keep our trust intact, freeing ourselves to enjoy the play. A favorite book/movie title comes to mind, “At Play in the Fields of the Lord.”  This is an area where the ego is still childlike; so unsure of itself that it needs constant assurance that it’s valuable and loved, and – it’s never enough.

 

Monday, February 25th

I’ve booked the first reading for the novel after publication on May 10th at the Orinda Book store. Look for details in the schedule section.  And the next workshop which will be on Aphrodite is set for April 13th.  Now if it will only stop raining for long enough to get my roof repaired I will feel that things are truly moving forward after this long sloggy sloppy mushy period. Some call it Mercury retrograde, I call it mud.

A friend came to me with a dilemma today. The gist of it was how does one know the difference between what is wrong to do and what is painful to do? The two get pretty tangled and when it is painful it often feels wrong for that reason when it isn’t actually morally incorrect, just hard.  In this case, is it morally wrong to put an animal down when it is unable to adjust to life indoors with people? The Human Society says it is not wrong.  My friend’s heart is pained but she cannot live with this animal’s behavior – she’s done everything known to man to change it.  And no one else will either – she’s searched all avenues for a home. 

This is an ambiguous moral dilemma. Thoughts about it anyone?

Tuesday, February 19th

I adore Hestia, preparing for next Sunday’s workshop where we’ll be looking at what she represents archtypally, I am in love with her all over again. I see that she has been part of my foundation always and that even when I’m unaware of her influence, true to her nature -- moving between the seen and unseen world --she’s always at work weaving her web of connection. She is the one that makes the unconscious conscious that gives depth to our perceptions that would otherwise see only the surface of physical reality. It is she who’s at work when we gain a deeper understanding.  It is also she who frightens us with dark possibilities, with eruptions from the depths that can cause havoc in our otherwise orderly lives. She is not always a friend to the ego that wants to believe it’s in control over things it is most definitely not. Her symbol is the moon and it’s madness—not popular with today’s high value on tidiness to the point of an obsessive/compulsive kind of disorder!!

The line between what we are meant to at least try to control, and all the rest that we cannot, is a moving target. I’ve yet to find it stable and predictable and even when I think I’ve finally understood, oops, dear Hestia pulls the rug out from beneath my feet and shows me once again that the truth I thought I’d found is false and that if it takes that to bring me to my knees, which is the position she prefers that we be in, so be it. I surrender, and frankly, once I get down there where I can rest my head on the ground and smell the sweet earth, I am glad beyond measure to give in; it is the place of peace and of true connection where I’m returned to the larger truth that I am one indivisible cell in the body of the universe; that my experience of separation is an illusion and I’m returned home, which I never left.

This life of separateness is so hard and so sad and confusing—and it’s that way only because of the illusion -- that I can’t help wondering why we must do this.  Some days I feel punished, on others I accept it without question ( that because I’ve spent so many years questioning to no avail; as this is obviously the situation my questioning has become an empty exercise and loss of energy) and do my best to get through it with some grace and care for all the rest of us who are suffering the same fate.

It’s raining today, and new leaks have sprung open in my living room adding to the growing number in my sweet redwood house. It is now more outdoors than most, but dear to me none the less.

 

Friday, February 15th

What a wonderfully insane week this has been. Part of what has made it so, is that Ancient American asked me to do a rush to help them out and get an article in to them for this month’s magazine. So, look for it probably in two weeks at the bigger bookstores, Border’s, etc. Also, the book has gone to print and can be pre-ordered at http://www.wheatmark.com/bookstore.  If anyone has contacts in the public world that might have interest in my novel, please pass them on to me as it’s time to really get the marketing in gear for the book.  I’m working this week on talking to bookstores about readings and when I have a schedule I’ll post it in the Schedule section of my website.

The magazine “What is Enlightenment” has an interesting article this month regarding the Divine Feminine. I was delighted to read Ms. Diebold’s premise that a return of feminine values is not the answer to inequality of any kind, not just spiritual, so then what is? The thesis of my novel looks at that issue, so I was happy to discover like-minds questioning it as well.  Maybe it’s because I started out in life as what is referred to as “a father’s daughter,” a typical Athena character that supports men, but, it’s not just that, but more an awareness that: 1. Our essential nature is not gendered. 2. The feminine and the masculine are equally valuable.3. Too much of either one creates an imbalance.

 We can see the balance when we look at the natural world which has always been the best guidance when our intellects get lost down a rabbit hole of thought that takes us too far from the simple truth.  From that perspective any enquiry becomes simple and obvious. Ask any simple person; a village mother, a farmer, a fisherman.  They’ll look at you like you’re daft to even bother with such questions.   But for those of us who are burdened with a desire to question, whose minds are not naturally simple, the answers can still be best found in the simple and obvious.

Saturday, February 9th

Once a month does not a blog make, but now that the website is up-to -speed and the marketing for my novel, Time & Transformation, scheduled for publication May 1st, is underway, I will devote more time to this venue.  I’m very excited to announce that I’ll be writing a long series of articles for the magazine “Ancient American” beginning in the April issue. I’ll be able to use photographs from the ruins and explore some of their fascinating concepts in depth. It’s a great opportunity and I look forward to sharing it with everyone. 

Tuesday, January 8th

I live on a mountain side from where I look out at the contour of the mountain and a valley full of trees of many varieties.  When I sit and look at this gorgeous vista, I know in my mind it is beautiful but it seldom catches my breath as it does when the mist is playing hide and seek with me.

All day today the storm has brought layers of clouds and mist.  In this season of mist everything moves  in and out of existence, now here, now disappeared.  Each reemergence a delight; a friend recalled.  I think we are very bad at appreciating what is too present; too constant.  I no longer see the art on my walls that once had the power to move me to heights of passion.  It is in my nature to delight at existence however, it needs to catch my attention and familiarity does, sorrowfully, breed discontent.  Here is another of life’s brilliant ideas; we all know that the one thing we can depend on in life is change, right? So life makes human nature fickle, which forces us to be awake to the next moment for as soon as we fall asleep - fall into any form of complacency- we lose life, in other words we experience varying degrees of depression.  To be fully alive we must be fully awake; we must be able to see the tree anew each moment.  This is where the mist is a great gift for it tricks us into thinking the tree is gone so that when it appears again, Voila, we actually SEE it. 

I have spent a lifetime studying and practicing different prescriptions for awakening.  Nothing works as well as mist.

 

 Monday, January 7th

A great deal depends on the manner in which a thing begins – refer to first entry on September 15th – for one thing, it is a reference point that can always be referred to in order to find our way back no matter how far we may wander from that source, for another it sets an intention that energetically supports movement – the further we get from the source/beginning the less energy is available for movement; entropy sets in over time.  Thus the necessity to regularly begin again. 

 

Each day is a possible new start, or not if we choose not to use it that way, but I believe that this is one of the more brilliant ideas of the creation for with the new dawn we’re rested and full of renewed energy and if we follow this natural design we can truly start again; realigning intention and tone, remembering what it is that we most truly desire to fulfill in our lives.  It is a daily prayer, if you will, or an affirmation, if that is your language; it is hope that does spring eternal, but not if we’re not paying attention and attention is the key word.  There is so much that we cannot control in life, so much outside awareness, but our own awareness is always available; a resource gifted to us by life.

 

Which raises another of the creation’s brilliant ideas; an expanding consciousness in an aging body.  This combination solves what would otherwise be a serious problem.  In a young body we have all the energy we need to keep moving for years with little necessity to return to the beginning for the renewal of energy—it’s built into youth. So we blithely move believing it is forever no matter what evidence we see in older beings.  Depending on the individual the first shock occurs around 30, but most certainly by 40 when we start to feel tired in some fashion, limited by a body that no longer energizes unconsciously.  It might occur when an hour of tennis sends us home for a nap when before we could play all day, but however the first shock occurs it is devastating to our naďve view and kick starts consciousness into a fuller participation; we must participate in our own growth which is no longer running on unconscious drives.

Someone - sorry I seldom quote correctly - once said that before 40 our looks are a gift of genetics, after 40 we’re responsible for how we look. 

 

Let’s call this the before and after 40 syndrome; before, unconscious processes refuel body, mind, and soul, after, consciousness is required for continued growth.  An aging body serves to remind us that we are the creators of our lives and so must decide what and how we will live, learning to be the creators is the gift that age gives us as a natural process.  Another piece of this design is that as we age and are becoming more conscious and more responsible we’re motivated by the now very real fact that we don’t have all the time in the world; that each day is precious and this is a powerful source of renewed energy!!

 

 

Sunday, January 6th

 

I’ve just added an excerpt from the novel “Time and Transformation” to the Novel Notes section of the website if anyone would like to get a preview.  It looks like the publication date will be mid-April 2008.  I won’t believe it until I hold it in my hands.  The wait has been forever. 

 

 

Saturday, December 29th

 

Another old adage; “if at first you don’t succeed, try try again. 

 

In the space between difficulties; moments of adoration.  This day is so beautiful, so beyond beautiful everything in me, every cell it seems, wraps itself around the wonder devouring it; unable to give enough say enough breath enough; an orgasm of the entire being, body and soul; the drive to merge all with the all, to go so far into the wonder of the day that I no longer exist.

As soon as I put words to the experience, I appear again as separate from that that I wish to become.  Yet, the need to express is as great as is the need to merge.  Individual and relationship locked in their eternal dance; lovely and so different from one another; not better but ‘other’.  It is another way of experiencing the Tao, the eternal dance of opposites.  Kabir’s “Held by the cords of love, the swing of the Ocean of Joy sways to and fro; and a mighty sound breaks forth in song. Mingle the double currents of love and detachment.”

 

And in this case; the individual and the all.

 

 

 

Friday, December 21st

 

Voila! It worked once, will it work twice? What a rush of freedom when I was able to put in the last blog entry myself.  I do seem to move from one problem to another however. Life; one problem following quickly on the heals of another? Joy and sorrow mingling.  The moments of ease pass quickly into difficulty again.  No need to list the new difficulties, just know it is so.  I’m going to go see if this works.

 

Wednesday, December 19th

 

 

I may or may not have solved my blog entry difficulty. Closer but, as the old adage goes “no cigar.” Where did that one come from I wonder. Does anyone know? Speaking of old, I find myself irresistibly drawn to the past, not mine but all of our pasts; to human history.  There was a time in my own history when I couldn’t get enough of our ancient stories, but lately the draw is much closer to home; to the world wars in Europe and to my country’s roots in Europe. I wonder why the change in interest; I wonder why the interest at all.  Do I look for something that isn’t in my world? Is it a compensation, and if so, what am I reaching for? A simpler time, a time of higher values, of working together for a cause, of families close to one another throughout their lives, not separated by hundreds or thousands of miles, for the sake of ambition; ambition for success in the world, for money, for things. Have we traded all that is truly valuable in life for things of far less value? I am becoming like my grandmother who, in the last 20 years of her life was famous for her stories of her parents and grandparents; of how they lived and the changes she’d seen in the 70 years she’d been alive. However, she didn’t complain about what the world had become, she accepted it, but she did keep the past alive for us and for that I’m grateful.  I will try not to complain, but rather remember that nothing is ever lost but only needs to be ‘re-called’ to be drawn back into the light. 

 

What would I re-call? Community working together, families in and out of one another’s lives, if not daily, then at least more often than the requisite yearly visit, most of all that our connections to one another are recognized as more important than anything else.  I think that is the key one that I would recall. I remember years ago my eyes welling up as I watched families interacting in India with an ease and naturalness that I’d never experienced myself. How I longed to be known and to know others in such an intimate way where there was no thought as one reached an arm around another as to whether they would welcome it or if it was correct. Thoughtless intimacy is learned in infancy if it is learned at all.

 

Key word; intimacy.  Recall intimacy please; that ease of connection that arises naturally.  A friend once said “all infants deserve love.”  A human right? No, I believe it is more a life right.  All animals have it, what happened to the animal that we are?

 

Tuesday, December 11th

I have been writing for several days now, what is meant to be a blog but which is not yet going anywhere but to my computer screen. I am so envious of the generation below me that grew up with computers; I am learning but ever so slowly it seems, and this latest challenge – my blog connection—continues to elude me. That said, as difficult as the learning is, I adore the possibilities and so persevere into the jungle/mine-field/ haystack with its hidden needle, to accomplish each new step. For fundamentally I believe it will work and that makes all the difference between moving forward toward a goal and batting one’s head against a brick wall. The brick wall is what we don’t believe in but stubbornly try to accomplish anyway. Unfortunately, too often one is not aware of the difference and hurts their head. My original vision on this particular path was a website to share my work with a larger audience. I could see it and so believed in it. If I’d kept a blog for that time, I’m certain that I’d have discouraged most readers, fortunately I did not. It has taken three months of grueling, frustrating, infuriating climbing to reach this point. There is no doubt in my mind that most of that waste of energy was due to my fumbling around in the haystack. Yet, here we are and the site is up, but I’m not yet telling anyone because I can’t get this &^%$#@() blog inserted properly into my site. For all of you over 40’s who want to play in the modern world, take heart, if I can do it so can you and it’s so important. Our communication forms have changed, and like going to a foreign culture, if we’re going to communicate we must learn the language.

Saturday December 1st

It appears that the clouds are not through with us, settling in for a longer visit, unusual for this early in the season, but not unwelcome. When nature is doing her washing like Tom Bombadil’s lady skipping beside the River Withywindle, I find myself collecting treasures to bring inside; mossy branches, dried leaves, pinecones I close the drapes early, light candles, put on music and gather art supplies around the fireplace, pour a glass of wine and light the fire, ready for the guest to arrive. Rumi says, “Stars burn clear all night till dawn. Do that yourself, and a spring will rise in the dark with water your deepest thirst is for.” We’ll see.

Thursday – November 29th

The clouds have come and gone, sprinkling the mountainside with the inevitable scent of things to come. Like squirrels gathering nuts the sounds of carpenters and gardeners, stonemasons and roofers echo across the canyon walls. I must remember to call for firewood and clean the gutters. But the sun is shining beguiling me to reflect, to sit and stare, seeing only the beauty of trees and sky, the graceful curves of beloved Mt. Tamalpais that fill my windows. I really should wash them, but not today. Today is sweet and quiet even with all the sound and activity. Driven inside by the morning rain, it is me that is quiet, perception is everything. Joie, my Cavalier King Charles – dog—has stolen a chewy from his best friend Mojo, a shorthair pointer three times Joie’s size who lives in the house below with my daughter Heather and her husband Mike. Mojo watched him carry the chewy away without taking it from him. He must not be hungry. But when Joie tried to bury it on the side of the hill, Mojo stole it back. My dear Joie hasn’t yet noticed his treasure is gone, he continues to dig his hole for the burial ceremony. But this is a line of thought I would rather not follow. We have yet to bury Anna and I choose to stay quiet inside. Maybe crying for the week is the source of my internal peace. I don’t feel empty though, just sweet and under that, sad. We had all looked forward with innocent hope to my daughter’s daughter’s arrival. I did say I wasn’t going to follow that line that goes down to the bottom of things. In an earlier conversation today we imagined that at the bottom of the bay live all the cell phones and computers and assorted technological objects that people have thrown in exasperation when they weren’t able to get them to work. That’s a better line to follow. But I see that if I continue I’ll get caught again so let this be enough for today.

Wednesday – November 21st

Beginning; dawn, start, new leaf, creation, the big bang, how does one draw the first line? Just do it, put your fingers on the keyboard and go. Easy and yet, a beginning defines the end; like a note of music, the tone will persevere and resonance gives the felt sense to a piece. The sense I long for is like the mystic poet Kabir’s; “Held by the cords of love, the swing of the Ocean of Joy sways to and fro; and a mighty sound breaks forth in song. Mingle the double currents of love and detachment, like the mingling of the streams of Ganges and Jumna. Do you know how the moments perform their adoration? Waving its row of lamps, the universe sings in worship day and night.” I had thought to begin with the experience of love and sorrow in my family this last month. It is still so close I believed that sharing it would be good. But on second thought, having not yet put fingers to keyboard, it was too close and the swing between love and sorrow too extreme for any music one would choose to listen to. So let us begin with mystic poetry, that refinement of feeling that heals the heart. For all broken hearts heal in the resonance of compassion. And sorrow, wherever it arises in a life, is universal; breaks us open, and freed from the constraints of daily life’s struggle for survival, we remember. What? Remember what? Open your heart and answer the question. It’s only waiting for us to ask. At a reading given by Jacob Needleman, a philosopher I admire, he raised a question in the title of his new book; “Why can’t we be good?” By the end of his talk he’d not answered the question, so I asked him. He seemed delighted that I’d been emboldened to ask for an answer to what he himself was asking, giving him the opportunity to remind us of a fundamental philosophical truth; the question is the point, not the answer. As I thought more on the subject I realized the question takes us on a journey of discovery that is unique to our individual consciousness. So I propose that the tone for this piece be both personal and poetic, that it be an exploration of the relationship between the mundane and the profound; the swing between love and detachment which has us know we are one and we are all, and it is only a matter of where we are on the swing as to which we momentarily identify with.

 

 

 

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